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Women: Stop Apologizing For 7 Things

Date : February 9, 2017
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Stop Apologizing For These Things!

What would happen if you’d stop apologizing? Would it seem as if you’re not a nice person? As women, we have the tendency of wanting to please. We’ve been conditioned and encouraged to do this. As young girls, we’ve been taught to ‘be nice’, and ‘follow rules’. There are many things to be sincerely apologetic, but you need to put yourself in check and pause for a moment, when it comes to these 7 things:

1) Stop Apologizing for how you feel:

We are all entitled to our feelings, but some of us are more emotional than others. If you’re angry, sad, PMS-ing, or whatever, always remember that your feelings are yours and you are entitled to express them. No one has the right to tell you that ‘you’re too sensitive,’ or that you ‘shouldn’t feel’ the way you do. These are your emotions, so there’s no need to apologize for them.

2) Stop Apologizing for your age:

As little girls, we wanted to grow up and look older, but now there’s a reverse reaction. As women, we spend a fortune on cosmetics, creams and surgery, because of the stereotypes and messages that tell us, that in order for us to have value, we should look youthful. Never apologize your age! Your reflexes may not be as quick as a younger person, and you may not have as much tech knowledge, but you’ve lived and you’ve learned ~ and you can keep on learning. There is no reason to apologize.

3) Stop apologizing for your size:

Big or small, short or tall, women feel insecure about their bodies. The media and society has set a standard of the appearance of the ‘ideal’ body. As most of us don’t fit that image, we feel uncomfortable with ourselves. Dress in the styles that you love, no matter what body type you have. Keep yourself healthy and don’t make excuses or feel inferior because of your size.

4) Stop apologizing for how you live:

Your home is yours, and the way you live is your business. You don’t have to feel guilty about it. Some people prefer their environment in perfect order, and others live in complete disarray. If you are entertaining, most likely you’ll want to clean up, but those who matter to you, won’t be as critical as you think. And, as for the ones who are judgemental ~ your apology won’t change their opinions.

5) Stop apologizing for your appearance:

Some people are very concerned about their image and they’re always dressed ‘to kill’ ~ but not everyone. If dressing in comfortable clothing is your preference – don’t excuse it. As long as you’re dressed appropriately and content within yourself, your appearance is up to you.

6) Stop apologizing for your lifestyle:

Some people go to the gym, stay on diets, avoid junk food and all the power to them. But if that’s not you, don’t compare yourself to them or feel that you should apologize. Your health is all that matters and your doctor will determine that.

7) Stop apologizing for your direction in life:

Many women choose a career and don’t want children; others balance a career and motherhood, and some choose full time parenting. Some women enter the workplace when their children no longer need them or not at all. Perhaps, in hindsight you’ve regretted your decision, but when you made your decision, it was right at the time. No apologies are necessary!

If you’re a ‘people pleaser’ the words ‘I’m sorry’ can quickly leave your lips. But put yourself in check before you say them. There are many things to apologize for, but when any of these 7 main things come to mind, to stay empowered, you must stop apologizing!

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Beverley Glazer MA., ICCAC., is an insatiable optimist, who in addition to coaching and empowering women to unleash their personal and professional strengths, is a therapist, addiction specialist, speaker and consultant, for over 26 years.