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How to Empower Yourself and Feel Good About Your Body

Date : November 5, 2017
Empower Women
Empower Yourself and Feel Good About Your Body.

How do you empower yourself ~ particularly on the days, when you’re just not feeling that vibe? It usually starts in the morning. You look into the mirror and you begin to notice your flaws. Perhaps it’s your hair, or you’ve gained a few pounds; or you find a new wrinkle that you didn’t see before; or perhaps you’ve gone off your diet, feel bloated and ‘fat’. How do you get back your confidence and empower yourself?

It’s not difficult to be hard on yourself. You judge yourself and tell yourself what ‘should be’; you diminish your assets, undermine your good qualities and depreciate your strengths. But in the process, you give yourself unproductive, damaging messages, and you can easily spin into the rabbit hole of negativity, obsessive thinking and depressive thoughts.

When you feel you are worthless in the first place, you are not setting yourself up to make consistent change. There is a connection between your mind and your body, and that’s the primary reason to empower yourself over the negativity that you’ve been feeling, slow your thoughts down and focus on your strengths.

Tips to empower yourself and feel good about your body.

Breathe Deeply

Take time out from whatever you’ve been doing and breathe deeply for a minimum of 5 minutes. Concentrate on the breathe. This is a sure-fire technique to make sure that both your body and your mind slows down,

Look into the mirror

Look deeply at your reflection and find what you like about your appearance. As an example: If you’ve been fixated on those wrinkles, remind yourself of the values of age. Think of the strengths that you have gained through all that you have experienced and endured throughout the years. Remember that you have received wisdom, and that you can impart this to others because of it.

No Excuses

Go to it! If you’ve been putting off losing weight, updating your wardrobe, exercising etc. don’t wait any longer. Change doesn’t happen overnight, so don’t wait to start the process.  When you are working on yourself, no matter what you do, you’ll empower yourself and feel better, simply by taking action.

Find Your Value

Create a list of positive adjectives that other people would say about your appearance. I once had a client who, when asked that same question, told me ‘they would say I was fat’ and she could not think of any other adjective to describe herself ~ SHE was saying those words to herself. No one else was telling her this. Remember, we never know what another person is thinking. All we know is what we say to ourselves. I told her that what I saw was that she had a warm, winning smile, beautiful green eyes and there was a list of many other wonderful qualities, but all she could think of was that she was ‘fat’.  Write a list of your qualities and attributes and refer to it whenever you’re feeling down.


When you’re obsessing or focusing on your body, it’s easy to forget that you should always be grateful for what you have. This is not only because others have less, but gratitude has been researched. When you are grateful for what you have, it makes you feel good as well.

Research on gratitude and empowerment:

Here is just one of a multitude of studies that confirm this: Two psychologists, Dr. Robert A. Emmons of the University of California, Davis, and Dr. Michael E. McCullough of the University of Miami, have done much of the research on gratitude. In one study, they asked all participants to write a few sentences each week, focusing on particular topics.

After 10 weeks they were more optimistic, felt better about themselves and about their lives.


When you’re upset with yourself you treat yourself poorly, and often don’t bother with the little ‘feel good’ things that matter. Buy a skin cream, take a hot bath, have your hair cut, go dancing. Make a list of the little things that make you feel happy. And whatever put’s a smile on your face ~ do THAT!!

In the long run, your body image is mental.

What some people find attractive, others do not, however how you think and feel about yourself is all that matters. So, on those days when your reflection tells you otherwise, empower yourself with these 6 tips and acknowledge that, ‘you’re doing the best you can’ at the moment.

Do not aim for perfection, if you’re doing your very best, that alone is enough!!

How do you empower yourself and feel good about your body image on those less than powerful days?



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Beverley Glazer MA., ICCAC., is an eternal optimist, who in addition to coaching and giving women empowerment to unleash their personal and professional strengths, is a therapist, addiction specialist, speaker and consultant, for over 26 years.